Q: Is it wrong to masturbate??
A: Masturbation is a normal and healthy thing.
You have probably heard a lot of myths and lies about masturbation
though. Like how it's dirty, or it's wrong, or even that it will
make you go blind! None of that is true.
Many people also think that only guys masturbate. Wrong again!
Girls love to masturbate too. Anyone who is sexual can masturbate.
There's no right or wrong way to do it, it's all about knowing
how your body works, and giving yourself pleasure.
The best part about masturbating, too, is that it is 100% safe!
It's one of the best ways to satisfy your sexual desires without
taking any risks!
Q: Are most young people my age having sex?
A: Some are, and some aren't. There's no answer
to this question, really. It's important to know that young people
have sex for many different reasons. Whether or not you're sexually
active, it's always good to know what some of your personal reasons
to have sex are.
Young people who are not sexually active sometimes find it really
intimidating to become active. Plus, with all the risks of contracting
STIs nowadays, no wonder! If you feel this way, then remember
that there are lots of other sexy stuff you can do other than
vaginal, anal, or oral sex. Touching, rubbing (dry-humping), and
mutual masturbation are very hot (and safe). In fact, just napping
next to someone is one of the best ways to feel close with them.
The bottom line is, know what you want to do, and what you don't
want. Try to communicate with your partner. And don't get tunnel
vision and think that sex is only anal, oral, or vaginal. There's
so much more!
Q: How can I tell between admiring someone and liking
them sexually or romantically??
A: Well, often, you can't. And sometimes, it
feels okay to not know if it's just admiration or it's something
more intimate.
The times when it doesn't feel okay is if there is something
"weird" about liking that person. For example, if you
are very different in age, if they are related to you (like a
cousin or something), or if they are of the same sex. There are
all sorts of pressures in society that says we can only admire
these people, and nothing more.
The important thing to remember is that desire and admiration
aren't always separable. It's human nature to appreciate other
people, to like different aspects of their person. And that, you
always have choices as to what to do with your desire or admiration.
